The End of the Hook Up
When I was a lad, I dreamed of living in a society in which women were
as committed to screwing around as were men. Imagine my surprise when
a mere 15 years later when I was too old to really take part in the orgiastic
revels.
Now it turns out that there really was a good reason all along for women
to be much more selective and committed in their sexual behavior besides
fear of pregnancy and STDs. Studies are now showing that there can be
psychological side effects to giving it up too easy. Hit it and quit it without
some kind of committment or genuine intimacy leads to depression,
suicidal ideation, cutting and other harmful behavior.
Men and women are just wired a little differently but we are so hell bent on
believing that they should be equal in all things that we ignore that sometimes
equal doesn't mean the same in all things. After a meaningless encounter,
men get no hormonal urge to linger. It could be argued that we have
some urge to get gone quick. Women actually get something out of
being cuddled with that helps keep them sane. It's true. I've seen
girls raised in the MTV culture who were absolutely convinced that they
were living in a historical period significantly different from everythin in
the past.
"Oh Greg, you just don't uinderstand how things are today," one said to me.
As though I were not myself alive and kicking in the late 90s and early 00s.
Withing two years of beginning a hedonistic lifestyle that would have made
Caligula blush, she was abusing durgs and alcohol, cutting herself, suicidal
and anorexic. So much for sexual freedom.
She's living clean these days and part of that includes a steady beau
and some old-fashioned love. Who'da thunk that would work?
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